DAVID RICHO

QUOTES

“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”

“We do not create our destiny; we participate in its unfolding. Synchronicity works as a catalyst toward the working out of that destiny.” 

“The foundation of adult trust is not "You will never hurt me." It is "I trust myself with whatever you do.” 

"When we feel unsafe with someone and still stay with him, we damage our ability to discern trustworthiness in those we will meet in the future.” 

“In the hero stories, the call to go on a journey takes the form of a loss, an error, a wound, an unexplainable longing, or a sense of a mission. When any of these happens to us, we are being summoned to make a transition. It will always mean leaving something behind,...The paradox here is that loss is a path to gain.” 

" A healthy person is not perfect but perfectible, not a done deal but a work in progress. "

"Our higher needs include making full use of our gifts, finding and fulfilling our calling, being loved and cherished just for ourselves, and being in relationships that honor all of these. Such needs are fulfilled in an atmosphere of the five A’s by which love is shown: attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing.”

"The opposite of interpersonal trust is not mistrust. It is despair. This is because we have given up on believing that trustworthiness and fulfillment are possible from others. We have lost our hope in our fellow humans.” 

“We were born with four words engraved on our bodies and in our hearts: Love me, hold me.” 

"We can actually reconstruct our past by examining what we think, say, feel, expect, believe, and do in an intimate relationship now.” 


"At every stage of life, our inner self requires the nurturance of loving people attuned to our feelings and responsive to our needs who can foster our inner resources of personal power, lovability, and serenity. Those who love us understand us and are available to us with an attention, appreciation, acceptance, and affection we can feel. They make room for us to be who we are.” 

"The challenge is to find our destiny in exactly what we are refusing to engage in.” 


"We don’t fear physical closeness because we fear proximity itself. Most of us earnestly want physical contact with those who love us. Rather we fear what we will feel when we get too close. The real fear, then, is of ourselves. This fear is not something to rebuke ourselves for. It is our deepest vulnerability, the very quality that makes us most lovable.” 

“once we understand that what happens beyond our control may be just what we need, we see thatacceptance of reality can be our way of participating in our own evolution.” 


“The way we were first loved and the ways we have been loved ever since form our definition of what love means to us. 
Some people really feel loved when someone gives them a gift. Others experience it when people stand up for them. Still others feel loved when someone goes the extra mile to help them. 
If our mother showed love by holding us in our pain or joy, without engulfing or controlling us, that will be the behavior that always feels like love to us. 
We feel love now as we first received it; we give love the way others gave it to us. Thus, since love is unique to each person, we read and write love, receive and give it, in the style designed by our past experience.” 

"Bread takes the effort of kneading but also requires sitting quietly while the dough rises with a power all its own.” 


There are five unavoidable givens, five immutable facts that come to visit all of us many times over: Everything changes and ends. 
Things do not always go according to plan. 
Life is not always fair. 
Pain is part of life. '
People are not loving and loyal all the time.

These are the core challenges that we all face. But too often we live in denial of these facts. We behave as if somehow these givens aren’t always in effect, or not applicable to all of us. But when we oppose these five basic truths we resist reality, and life then becomes an endless series of disappointments, frustrations, and sorrows.